Dream Killers, why do we hold on to them?
We all have them. Dream killers are in every one of us.
Dream killers, even most successful people have them, creeping up in they’re minds like a virus attacking the brain. They don’t come all at once, jumping on you and saying, “here I am, let’s fight and see who wins.”
No, they are sneaky, they have been with you since the first time you started to walk and fell, scared to try again. While you are living your life, every day, they are manifesting within you.
Growing so strong inside of you, yet silently, until one day when you are called upon to do something beyond your comfort zone, they jump on you like ravished dogs. You try to fight it but they overwhelm you and take over. Research has found that you’re set to achieve your goals if you start by dreaming big.
If they’ve been there since I was young, how can I expect to fight them? How can I expect to stop them from keeping me in a pit of misery? They are stronger than me, control me, stop me dead in my tracks. Let’s start by figuring out what they are.
Can I do something about it?
The good news is I know how they became a part of you, attached so strong it would be like trying to cut off an arm. The bad news is you may not like it when I tell you, it was you. You did this to yourself over a long period.
Yet, we all do it, from the time we wake until the time we close our eyes. Oh, to make matters worse, even while you sleep you could be adding fuel to the fire, but we will get into that in another post.
So what are they? They are your thoughts which you put inside you’re mind in order to protect you from harm.
I know what you are saying, “Frank, if they are here to protect me, then why are they harming me at the same time?” Well, in one aspect, they keep you from getting embarrassed, hurt, made fun of, pain, depressed and pretty much anything else that you as an individual would think is something you cannot handle mentally. However, at the same time, they stop you from love, achievement, success, true happiness, caring for others and again, the list goes on.
So what do all these thoughts have in common? Let’s discuss that next.
Dream Big always
Most of us encountered this when we were just little toddlers. We may have fallen off our bike and the fear of getting back on was stronger than the fear of never riding a bicycle again. Maybe we were hit by a baseball while playing our favorite sport and now we decided not to go onto the field so not to get hit again.
Now, we all grow up, get older, become adults and stop believing in this little thing called fear…right?
Not exactly. In fact, for most of us, it just gets stronger and stronger and all we can do is hide it behind our mask we put on each day we go out. When you fell off the bike when you were a toddler, that is still within you, growing every time a little issue arises.
The girl who turned you down becomes the anti-social person inside you. The bully who picked on you stops you from ever sticking up for what is right, staying in the shadows pretending not to see or hear the cries for help.
So is this it for me? Am I destined to be this person for the rest of my life?
Once again, I have good news and bad news. The good news is, that is up to you. Only you have the power to decide enough is enough and that you are worthy of more.
The bad news, however, is that it is up to you. I say this because so many people have become so accustomed to where they are in life, that the sheer aspect of moving outside they’re comfort zone is preposterous.
Why would anyone decide to put themselves through all of that hurt and pain again, for what?
And there you have it. For What
See, you are so embedded within who you are right now, you have no idea of the person you can and should be. Fear has got a hold of you so tight, it doesn’t allow you to see the true you. It stops you from even thinking you have any power to become the sole owner of your mind and knock fear to the ground. I have a little secret, don’t tell fear this but the secret to beating him/her are your thoughts. Allow me to explain.
Our Thoughts Control us
If you believe me that fear stops you from doing many things in life, then you must also understand, fear is just a thought. It’s a very strong thought, stronger in some than others, but it is still just a thought. Like so many other thoughts, you have control over them. All of them. The power is within you to decide what you will think. But how do you do this?
Just about anything you do in life needs one thing…training. You must train your brain to think the way you want it to. You are already doing it, just in a not-so-positive way. We all need to train our brains to start thinking in ways which will be a more positive note on our bodies and minds. Here are a few ways to start training your brain right now.
Now, remember, all good thoughts here, the more positive the better. I guarantee after a while you will be happy to start your day. This is my favorite time of the day because I am really good at dreaming up an awesome day now.
Oh, it’s pretty good for the people receiving the gratitude as well. This can be anything from holding open the door to buying a cup of coffee for the next guy in line.
Now, you’re probably wondering who are you thanking? Well, this one is on you. If you believe in God, then thank God. If you are just a spiritual person, then thank the spirits. Maybe you believe that we all live in an abundance of energy that flows throughout all of us, then thank that. It doesn’t matter who or what you thank, just be sincere when doing it.
What this will do is start to take you to a level of positivity and with that way of thinking, you start to become stronger mentally.You start to think maybe you are good enough and can have the life you so desire.
But thinking these thoughts are only the first step to getting there. Here is the next step.
Most people who believe in changing the way they think, stop at just doing that. They feel if they change their way of thinking, then all will be good.
That is only halfway to your goal. Like I said earlier, changing your thinking habits make you mentally stronger for what is next. That is taking action on those dreams and making them come true.
The action is the key to so many aspects of your life. Right now you are probably thinking there is no way I am ready to take action on what I want to do in life and well, you are correct, you are not ready. that is why you must change your thinking habits first.
Start the training process of training your brain to think differently.
Now, please note that failure does not mean anything you just did was wrong. this is about getting the dream killer of fear out of you to take charge of your life. A failure in doing so is another dream killer that we will discuss at a later time. One thing at a time, we will get there together.
I believe in you – It is time for you to believe in you too.